First and foremost, the endless barrage of self-criticisms and nit-picking must end. Learn to change the dialogue in your head! "More often than not, your belief isn't rooted in fact, but assumption," says Dating With Dignity CEO Marni Battista. "Maybe you assume you aren't smart because of one insignificant incident." Keep things in perspective — you're only human (one who makes mistakes once in a while!), and you are good enough.