You both acknowledge neither of you is the perfect spouse.
No one's perfect, and therefore, no spouse is perfect. And that's OK. Happiness expert and author of Meeting Your Half-Orange, Amy Spencer, believes acknowledging this fact is key in rebooting your marriage. According to her studies, it all comes down to the relationship physics of putting yourself in your spouse's shoes. How are your partner's behaviors, moods, and choices impacted by your behaviors, moods, and choices? Have there been moments where you unfairly criticized your spouse or hurt their feelings first? Citing these instances will allow you to then shift how you react in future situations.